If you’ve been on the internet for almost any amount of time, chances are that you know how easy it can be to carry on an affair through the internet. Especially if you never physically meet up, you can often hide an affair from your partner for years with the help of the internet. This, however, can make some people a bit paranoid about the possibility that their partner is cheating on them. If you’re worried about your partner cheating on you, instead of getting paranoid, you should learn a bit. Here are four things to do so you can be more certain about whether or not your partner is cheating.
1. Look Around on the Internet
First and foremost, seek out general information about cheating. You can find this information all over the internet. It’s a good idea to do multiple searches and read as many as 10-15 articles to get a good idea of the different ways that someone might hide their cheating. Some good search terms to use to find these articles include:
- Is my boyfriend cheating on me?
- How can I know if someone’s cheating?
- What do people do when they cheat?
- I think my girlfriend is cheating on me
- How to discover cheating
The reason you should read a wide variety of these articles is because different people bring different knowledge to the process. If you only read one or two articles, you’re not going to understand as much as if you read 10 or even 100 articles.
2. Research Common Apps for Cheating
In the modern age, just about any app can be an app for cheating if people decide to use them that way. However, there are typically three groups that form for cheating apps: direct affair apps, overall dating apps, and social media apps. That may include these apps and beyond:
- Ashley Madison
Of course, if you find evidence that your partner is on an affair app or a dating app, that’s essentially the nail in the coffin for them. That’s why many people will try to quickly move an affair to a social media site; it doesn’t necessarily seem weird when someone spends a lot of time on Instagram. However, this can be an easy way for them to cover up their cheating, so it’s a good idea to keep an eye on their social media activity.
3. Look for General Indications of Cheating
There are some behaviors that are just generally indicative of cheating. While it’s true that these behaviors aren’t always because your partner is cheating, it is so common that many people take them as the first warning signs that someone’s cheating on them. These indications may include any of the following behaviors:
- Guarding their phone or computer
- Staying late at work
- Going into other rooms to answer calls
- Trying to be alone more often
It’s important to point out that these are typically indications that your partner is hiding something from you, not necessarily that your partner is specifically cheating. Before you jump to the conclusion that the thing they’re hiding is a “side piece,” it’s a good idea to look deeper and see if there’s any other evidence that points one way or the other.
4. Gather Evidence Before Making an Accusation
Before you make any accusations toward your partner, you want to gather evidence. That evidence may be information about your partner’s social media usage, screenshots of conversations, or even just seeing your partner acting flirtatiously with people on social media. If you confront your partner before you have any kind of evidence, there are typically two possible outcomes.
The first outcome is if your partner truly wasn’t cheating. They’re likely to be very hurt by this accusation, and it may negatively impact how they feel about you and about the relationship as a whole. The second outcome is if your partner was actually cheating. They may be more likely to lie their way out of an accusation that doesn’t have a lot of information to back it up. Either way, it’s better to collect evidence before you make any sort of accusation.
Around a quarter of people will experience cheating at some point in their dating life, and every year you have about a 6% chance of being cheated on. While these numbers are fairly low, they’re definitely not zero, which means it’s worth it to be aware of how cheating works and how you can catch it. The more you know about cheating, the more likely you are to catch it when it happens to you. That way, you can avoid as much heartbreak as possible, no matter when you have issues with cheating in your relationship.